When people hear the words Domestic Abuse, the most common assumption is that the abuse had to be physical. The common assumption is that the abuse had to be violent, when the truth is that true abuse is never about violence. True abuse is always about control.
An abuser knows exactly what to do, say, act out or withhold in order to maintain absolute control. The victim is often put in such a state of absolute submission to this, that the victim will blame themselves for the abuse.
A really skilled abuser is so good at twisting the truth that he or she can even make it appear to others as if they are the true victim. These posts regard my own experiences with domestic abuse. It’s my hope that others who may be experiencing what I went through will stop blaming themselves for their partner hurting them. I hope that outlining the details of my abuse situation can help others find the strength to get out, like I did.
